Friday, June 12, 2009

Been too long since I last posted!

So its been over a month since I posted, been busy! We squatted in the new house for 10 days. During this time our fabulous (read: not so fabulous) seller harassed my sweet mother-in-law daily about the progress of the house in Lexington. What happened was the loan officer in charge waited to the last minute to begin the loan and the Tuesday before we were to close on Friday, called the couple purchasing our home and requested TWENTY SEVEN documents. That's right. Bank of America asked a couple living in two different states with everything in storage for 27 documents 2 days before closing. Wonder why we didn't close. The saga continued for all 10 days, and we even had a snag, thanks to Bank of America again, on the day of actual closing! So, all in all, it is over. Seller jerk did call me last week and make up some "you owe me $300 for rent for the time you lived in the house before buying it." We haven't returned his call. We've replaced most of the electrical stuff and plumbing is coming along, not as fast as I would like but Mike's friend is doing it on the side. I continue to unpack and rearrange daily. Not as fast as I would like, but I am making progress.

Baby news. We've been pluggin along. Bought a diaper bag (it was cool and way on sale) and a quilt in which to decorate around...and been thinking about names. Then, last Wednesday, Deb from our agency called and said "I have some bad news." Basically Babymama sent an email saying her husband wanted to keep the baby since it was a girl, so she guessed she'd keep it. What? Now? I was devastated! I cried and sobbed. I drank. I painted with the darkest acrylics I could find. I tried to wallow all night and let Talia stay with my sister, but Ta needed to be with me. So I had to pull myself together for her. We sat on the couch and talked about losing Kate and what that meant and how I was feeling. She was so understanding! Much beyond her 5 years I think, but never had this situation before in which to compare. She was sad, and very sad to see me upset, but I think it makes life real for her. Anyway. That night I went to bed sad, and woke up with red, swollen eyes. As the morning progressed, I started to get my good-ole optimism back. We've said all along that we don't want a baby that is wanted by their birth family. So as we readied for the Edisto weekend, my mood continued to improve. By the time we left, I was back on track. Half way to Charleston, the agency called. Apparently it was the Babydaddy that wanted to keep the baby, not the Babymama, AND she almost had him convinced that he, too, wanted to proceed with the adoption. Hope! Cautious hope, that is. My family was very skeptical, and talked about it all weekend. I haven't told Talia about the possibilty of getting Kate again. Just being vague and general in our hoping with her. So, then at the beginning of this week, the update from our wonderful agency says that Babymama and Babydaddy want to give the baby up for adoption, but it was her OB doc that was trying to her Babymama to give the baby to friends of his! Scream! What now? So our agency called him and a local lawyer and told them to back off! He better. Babymama can keep Kate if that is best, but if she is adopted, it better be by us. So, the last we heard was both Babymama and Babydaddy are willing to sign preconsents to adopt, which is a big step in the right direction. So, probably we wait until an induction date is scheduled or she goes into labor. Then we bolt! Anyway, I am trying to be global in my thinking...either this proceeds as we planned and I finish the house by the end of June and get a baby in July, or I finish the house in June and play/travel in July. So, house needs to be finished in June!


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